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Who Else Is in the Room? The Good Mother Myth in the Social Worker‒Mother Client Encounter

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  27 July 2015

Hagit Sinai-Glazer*
Affiliation:
School of Social Work, McGill University E-mail: hagit.sinaiglazer@mail.mcgill.ca

Abstract

A fundamental dyad in public social services is woman to woman. In Israeli public social services, it is often mother to mother. This multi-faceted encounter is complex and in this theoretical article I wish to deconstruct and situate the social worker–mother encounter in a broader context, a social–cultural–national one. Taking a feminist perspective, I will explore how the personal and private social worker–mother encounter is a political and public one. Analysing western ideologies of the ‘Good Mother’ together with those of the Israeli-Jewish mother, this article aims to develop a theoretical understanding of macro mechanisms that shape the social worker–mother encounter. Being conscious about what influences that encounter might benefit social work clients, practitioners, researchers, and policymakers.

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